Times when you couldn't take your hands off each other are long gone and she may no longer urge for sex as she used to. This situation is quite common for couples after the initial stage of sexual madness is over. Is it a normal situation for a woman to want less sex once she settles in stable relationships and what are the causes decreased sexual desire?
Physical exhaustion
One of the common problems faced by young mothers or working women is that at the end of the day their sexual desire is totally diminished due to the abundance of day-to-day tasks, care about a new-born baby, work and other duties. Is it so surprising that a flame of love subsided under pressure of daily routine.
What to do
Ask her about her state - she may well confess you that tiredness made her desire disappear, which gives you a good opportunity to share your duties and leave at least some time for yourself only.
Lack of excitement
Do not blame the disappearing desire of your partner if your sex repertoire didn't change. Standard foreplay and intercourse may well become less exciting if she knows the forthcoming scenario as her good as ABC.
What to do
In this situation, even small changes can bring the excitement back into your relationships. Not skilled in sensual massage? Do simple foot massage or tickle her with a feather, have a relaxing warm bath with aroma oils or whisper her sweet words - this can be enough to arouse her instincts.
Unhappiness with the relationships
Her lack of sexual desire may well be a result of tense relationships and unresolved problems. Very often a man think there is nothing wrong in having sex with a woman if he recently had a fight with her. For her this can be unacceptable because a woman is inclined to associate emotional side of the relationships with physical, thus showing her discontent by refusing to share a bed with her partner. Feelings of resentment, lack of positive emotions in your relationships may well lead to loss of her libido.
What to do
Try to solve all your problems before you are going to have sex. Talk to her and ask what bothers her and what you both can do to improve your relationships. Do not turn your talks into hot arguments and explain her what you need in a calm manner.
Tell that you love her not only when you want or anticipate sex. Infuse some romance, having a date with two of you spending some time in relaxed atmosphere.
Illness, childbirth
Hormonal fluctuations occurring after childbirth and during pregnancy, health problems may also affect her libido, leaving you distressed. These problems may be temporary or long-term depending on a situation.
What to do
Try to be patient and open with each other, discussing the problems. Express your feelings and let her know about your desires. You may offer to engage in other sexual plays to satisfy your needs like solo play or seductive talks, read erotica or role playing. A break away may be helpful to enlighten any relationship. If the problem is more complex, it is better to seek for professional help.
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